We need to get out of the way of ourselves more … dumping that obtrusive ego … remembering that our job isn’t to hold on to our position (double meaning there). Our job is to improve things.
Imagine a world without ego (the bad ego … the ‘inflated sense of self-significance’ ego).
There’d be no…
Toes to step on
Feelings to hurt
Fair shares to grab
Territory to defend
Fault to allocate
Back to watch
Last words to get
Ideas to hold back
Embarrassment to bear
Battles to win
Knowledge to prove
Entitlement to have
Encouragement to withhold
Credit to seek
Grudges to hold
Jealousy to feel
Revenge to take
Hidden meanings to construe
I’m not sure it’s something we can truly measure at the macro level, but I’d bet pride, ego, and defensiveness cost us trillions of dollars every year (and thousands of solutions to current world problems).
Can we eliminate it from our relationships and work environments? Very tough to do but certainly worth the effort (more happiness, less expense, more profit, less drama … mmmmm).
Be humble. Understand you are a (small, impermanent) part of the world. Service and patience should be top priorities.
Be teachable. Focus on what you can learn, rather than showing what you know. Remember that much of what you know began with the work of someone else.
Listen more. Make every effort to truly understand what others are saying (beyond just words). It makes for better connections. Allow a gap of silence before responding. Ask questions (and listen, again).
Appreciate people. Enjoy others’ contributions. Don’t squelch ideas or defend territory. Encourage people more.
Relax. Let go of the need to be right or win every time.
Speak no ego. Be no ego.
To have a Be No Ego discussion, hand out the Be No Ego pocket cards and/ or wristbands, then ask a few simple questions in a team environment to get things rolling (e.g., Where/ When do you think our egos get in the way here? What are some things we could do to improve? How can we help each other minimize the impact of an ego moment?) Once everyone’s on the same page … it’s time to Smove and Love Your People.