How to Get the Truth

How to Get the Truth

Well, if I think my thoughts might be uncomfortable to you, it depends on the strength of our relationship as to how I’ll answer this question, doesn’t it?

If our history tells me you’d really like to know the truth, then I’ll give it to you. If it tells me that you might hold it against me or respond poorly, I might not give it to you. If we have no history, then it could go either way (assuming I’m fine with not being truthful or omitting the truth … hopefully not the case).

So, some important questions…

  1. What are you doing (or not doing) to encourage truth from those you work with and those you care about?
  2. What are you doing to encourage true thinking so we can all move forward?
  3. Are you approachable to others (a Smovish principle)?
  4. Are your responses to other’s thoughts defensive (or offensive) … making them less likely to give you their real thoughts?
  5. Do you ask the second and third questions that can open new veins of information and deepen everyone’s level of understanding (getting you to the real/brutal truth)?

Anything less and everyone misses out.

When you have 13 minutes (outside the money hours or on a well-earned break), enjoy one of my favorite talks on truth by Margaret Heffernan (author of Willful Blindness). It’s a wonderful reminder to seek the truth, Be No Ego, and Love Your People … a good one to watch with your team (and maybe your kids).

Love Your People. Cultivate kindness, care, and accountability among your team.

To reach Margaret or learn more about her work, visit To go deeper, you might enjoy this article she wrote (great stuff).

Freedom had been hunted round the globe; reason was considered as rebellion; and the slavery of fear had made men afraid to think. But such is the irresistible nature of truth, that all it asks, and all it wants, is the liberty of appearing.”

Thomas Paine (1737-1809)
English-American political activist