Last fall, my wife and I became empty nesters. In March, our two college sons jumped back in ... and it's getting hot in here ;-) I'm sure many of you have similar situations.
Even if your current situation hasn't put added pressure on the importance of communicating well, you still get it. In fact, I believe communicating well is one of the kindest things we can do.
More to come on this but in the interest of making good things happen for other people today, I thought I'd give you the quick 'more listening' idea from the Model section of Lead Simply and then one extra idea we're in the middle of trying at the Parker house. (It's kind of fun and a little funny.)
Have you ever considered how ridiculous it is to talk over someone?
Do you do it?
Ever cut someone off mid-sentence with...
“I don't mean to interrupt but...”
“Sorry to interrupt...”
“Oh, hey, real quick...”
Ever just skip the lead-in and finish someone's sentence with your own paragraph?
Here's one way to correct it...
Commit yourself to dropping a small gap of silence between what someone else says ... and your response ... just an extra beat or two. You'll be amazed at what else you learn and the better connections you make.
If/When you catch yourself forgetting not to interrupt … stop and apologize. “I'm sorry. I cut you off. What were you saying?” Enjoy how it reinforces your future self-awareness.
The added Parker house exploration is below.
People in the Parker house talk a lot (it's one of the ways I eat ... not so much right now, unfortunately). And, we're challenged with the gap of silence idea above just like everyone.
Yesterday, we decided to make a run at minimizing interruptions by saying 'Over' when we're finished talking ... like we're ending a walkie-talkie or radio transmission. (I'm serious although we were laughing about it in the first couple hours.)
If it's valuable, I'll let you know what we learned from the experience after it's been in place a few days.
No need to wait on us though.
In your practice to be a more enjoyable person, remember, a breath doesn't always indicate the end of a sentence or thought.
And that's all I have to say about that.
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